Every parent tends to be dizzy and confused if their child has a tantrum. Especially if it happens in a public place, then Moms will have a hard time calming your little one from all his desires.
Not many moms know how to deal with a child's tantrums, or at least temporarily stop their crying. Parents usually get emotional when they see their child tantrums so that the little one's cries are getting louder.
When the number of children experiencing tantrums is getting more frequent, of course Moms will be getting dizzy, right? Through this article, Makuku Family as a mother and child consultant tries to provide parenting education on how to deal with child tantrums and what are the factors that cause the baby to cry often to convey his message.
What is a Tantrum?
Tantrum is a condition that is expressed by children in expressing their emotions through loud crying, rolling around and throwing things. Children will have tantrums when their parents cannot fulfill their wishes.
According to a 2017 study published in The Journal of Pediatrics, 70 percent of children aged 18-24 months experience tantrums. Tantrums can also occur in children aged 3-5 years, even at pre-school age this is often found. If your child has a tantrum, it's not a sign of weirdness or abnormality.
In general, tantrums are caused by various factors such as:
1. Environment
Have you ever seen a child who had a tantrum at the mall? Well, tantrums are caused by environmental conditions that make your little one uncomfortable. It could be, your little one wants something or feels uncomfortable when in a crowd. The solution, Moms need to take your little one to a quieter place or shorten the time visit to the mall.
2. Fear
Your little one often experiences tantrums when he experiences fear. He may be afraid of animals, or afraid of the presence of certain people in your home. If your child has a tantrum because of fear, you should distract your child and find ways to control the child's fear.
3. Time
Has your little one had tantrums only at certain times? For example, in the morning when father or mother goes to the office, the little one will experience a tantrum and be reluctant to let go of the parents. For this problem, parents can give a little tolerance for separation time for children.
4. Certain Sentences
Try to remember, have you ever said a sentence that made your little one cry? Or, when you scare your little one? It could be, it makes the child have a tantrum.
In addition to the causative factors, Moms also need to know the type of tantrums that are carried out by the child.
First, manipulative tantrums where emotional outbursts arise when the child's wishes are not fulfilled. The majority of these cases occur due to parental refusal of the child's request.
Second, frustrated tantrums occur because the child has not been able to express the feelings he wants to others. Frustration tantrums are also influenced by several factors such as fatigue, hunger and failure to do something.
What Should Moms Do When Your Little One Has Tantrums?
Moms don't need to be emotional or dizzy when dealing with a child who is having a tantrum. Research has found a new, short and effective way of dealing with tantrums.
In the study it was stated that children only need to be taken to nature such as parks or gardens for 10 minutes to stop their fussy cries. Moms can find the nearest park from home and take a little time to walk around.
Research shows that spending time in nature is effective in reducing anxiety, depression and stress. This is not only true for children, but even for adults.
If the above method has not been able to overcome your little one, here are some things you should do so that your little one's crying stops.
1. Understanding Not Judging
Understand your little one's wishes, not judge their cries. Align yourself with your little one and have a heart-to-heart talk. Talking to equalize the height of the child makes the little one feel protected and cared for by his parents. So, the key is to communicate, not get scolded.
2. Try to Calm Even If It's Troublesome
Before calming your little one, you must also be calm when dealing with a child's tantrum. Avoid yelling or forcing your child to stop crying because that is not the solution. On the other hand, you can calm your little one by taking him to a quiet place and giving him a loving touch such as stroking his head or hugging him.
3. Divert Attention and Give a Smile
When your little one has a tantrum, you must divert his attention to other activities so that your little one's crying stops. For example, Moms can give toys, play favorite songs/videos or give their favorite snacks.
4. Avoid doing rude things
Physical actions such as hitting or pinching will not be effective in stopping your baby's crying. Instead of being silent, your little one will feel more afraid and his cries will get bigger. So, never stop a child's violent tantrums with violence, Moms!
Although tantrums are normal, you need to consult a doctor or child psychiatrist if your child experiences tantrums accompanied by attempts to hurt themselves, hit others, and the quantity of tantrums is too long (30 minutes).
So, are you ready to face a tantrum? Hopefully the article above is quite helpful when you experience something similar. Keep up with interesting information and other parenting tips through the Makukufamily.co.id website or follow our Instagram account at @makuku.indonesia.official
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